Having struggled with depression in the past, I thought it was creeping back into my life. My attitude had a consistent negative slant even when there was no reason for it. But I know depression well, and this wasn’t it.
This was just after high school and I didn’t want to start my life with this constant negative attitude. After some soul searching and self-awareness, I realized what was causing the problem.
You know that you’re a product of your environment, but do you know how to deal with negative people in your life?
Everyone in your life is influencing you in some way. There is no shortage of negative people in the world. As a result, you must know how to deal with the negative people in your life. This is critical if you want to live a life of success and be a successful leader.
Here are 7 strategies for dealing with people who have toxic attitudes:
1. Find The Good In The Person
You never know what someone is struggling with or going through. That hidden struggle could be the cause of their negativity and a toxic attitude. Some people are so set in their ways, that showing them empathy will not help the situation. However, many are going through something that is temporary. Have compassion for them and be there for them. They may be negative today but that doesn’t mean they’ll be negative forever.
2. Tell Them.
Perhaps your friend doesn’t know they’re being so negative? Let them know, kindly and from a place of concern. I’ve had friends tell me I was “off” with my attitude and I had no idea. Once it was brought to my attention, I could see what they were seeing. I made the necessary adjustments and am grateful they let me know.
3. Use The Golden Rule
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. This is the foundation of every strong relationship. The last thing in the world you want to be is the negative one amongst the people in your life. Set a good example by modeling the kind of attitude and behavior that you respect from people.
4. Limit Your Exposure
Guess what? You don’t have to be everyone’s best friend. Some people are in your life for a reason, others for a season. If someone you know is always toxic with their attitude then limit the time you’re around them. There are some people in life you can’t get away from 100%, such as family. But you can always limit your time around someone. Life is too short to spend time with people who make you feel bad.
5. Don’t Take The Bait
Misery loves company. Negative people love nothing more than to make others suffer along with them. Don’t take the bait. You don’t have to gossip just because someone else is. You don’t have to complain just because someone else is. Be strong enough to not allow their negativity to influence you. If you do, you’ll carry that with you the rest of the day. Keep your mind focused on positive things.
6. Cut Them Out
This may sound extreme or even harsh. People give up their right to be a strong presence in your life when all they do is criticize and complain. When you’ve tried everything else, and they are still bringing you down, it’s time. Cut them out of your life, wish them the best, and move on.
7. Create A Better Environment
Success and stupidity are both contagious. You must be wise when selecting your environment. Surround yourself with positive people who are giving, loving, and kind. The more you cultivate this type of environment the less negative people you will have in your life. They won’t fit in. There will be no room for them. Be purposeful with who you’re surrounded by. Everyone and every conversation is influencing you, whether you realize it or not.