It was never guaranteed I would be a father. As a kid, I assumed I would grow up, get married, and have kids. This wasn’t a struggle my wife and I expected to deal with.
For 5 years we struggled to have a child. During this time I thought about all of the conversations and experiences I would one day share with my children.
Today, we are grateful to have two wonderful kids. When my son and daughter were born, my immediate thoughts were about the cool things I could teach them.
Okay, my immediate thoughts were panic. But after that, my thoughts were on teaching.
As a parent, you have a checklist of things you plan to teach your kids. Sports, cooking, and cleaning are usually on this list. Although, they never seem to learn the cleaning part.
What is often overlooked, is teaching your kids about success.
You want them to live a life full of happiness and fulfillment. To do this, there are a few things they need to know about success…
1. You are responsible for your success.
Mom and dad are going to help. Friends and family will offer support. But success is 100% your responsibility. The sooner you understand this, the better.
Circumstances and situations in your life will only determine your success or lack thereof if you allow them too.
As Earl Nightingale said, “We are all self-made but only the successful will admit it.”
2. You are what you think about.
Your thoughts determine your actions and your actions determine your results. The key to success is in your mind. Focusing on negative self-talk, fears, envy, gossip and other cancerous thoughts will not lead you to success.
Proverbs 23:7 proclaims, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
Think of your mind as a garden and every thought is a planted seed. Are you planting weeds?
3. You can’t outperform your self-image
If you don’t believe in yourself, don’t expect anyone else to either. If you see yourself as someone who doesn’t deserve success then you will never achieve it.
Self-doubt is your biggest enemy. Spend time working on yourself. This isn’t about having an ego. This is about believing you can achieve your goals.
4. The purpose of influence is to help those without it.
Why strive for success? It’s simple. You are limiting how much you can positively impact others if you’re not successful.
Success isn’t about money alone. It’s about achievement. The more influence you have, the more you can help those who lack it.
The world is in desperate need of positive influencers. Be one of them.
5. You are a product of your environment.
Success and stupidity are both contagious. Everyone in your life is having a significant impact on you. Be sure that impact is positive by surrounding yourself with the right people.
You may out-grow some friends and while that will be hard, it’s natural. You’ll meet new friends who share similar passions and goals.
Some people are in your life for a reason, others for a season.
Your kids are the future leaders of the world. Prepare them by teaching them the principles of success.